I have been getting feedback that my blog is too depressing as if it’s the end of the world. I need to clarify this. I am not dying of any disease or cancer. I am not crying of any heartbreak. I am not succumbing to any stress or mid life crisis. Actually my life has been really good so far (it got a lot better after my lasik eye surgery 3 years ago, before which I couldn’t see anything without thick glasses). I just tend to go from one extreme to another. That’s why I started to write a blog so that a few years later, when I’m happily married to a great guy, have a great job, I can look back at this and think “Gosh, why did I sound so desperate!” Ha ha…
OK, so the only not so good news these days is the status of my H-1B visa. I haven’t heard of any news and at this point it is quite unlikely I will get it. Maybe God didn’t believe my promises, or maybe he was on vacation, who knows. I am sure God will have a better plan for me, but I can’t help feeling sad, thinking of the beautiful city and the wonderful friends I am leaving behind.
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Last night, after hearing the “death sentence” from the HR people at my company, I felt so sad. As always, when I am sad, I would call Luan to whine and hear him say “It’s Okay honey, we’ll find a way”. It always makes me feel better.
So I was walking around feeling a bit down when a friend called. Hearing of my situation, he suggested “Wanna get a cup of coffee?” “Sure”.
So we met up in Greenwich Village. I haven’t been there at night in a while and the vibe of the neighborhood is just so charming. We were walking around a bit and my friend told me “This is Greenwich Village, you shouldn’t walk so fast. Slow down and look at the flowers, the houses and everything around you. Isn’t it beautiful?” This was surprising coming from an IT guy. We sat at this cute coffee place in a small quiet street lined with trees and had a really good time. This is definitely what I will miss most about New York, being able to meet for coffee anytime of the night, sitting outside in the beautiful weather, having good conversation with friends. As we stood up, ready to leave, I just realized that I am the only girl in this coffee shop, he’s the only straight guy and the rest are gay men! What do I expect, being near Christopher Street.
So last night I just went to bed, trying to deal with my problems tomorrow like Scarlet in “Gone with the winds”. After all, tomorrow is another day!
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OK, so what should I do about my visa situation?
- Accept a marriage proposal to stay (a guy even offered to "adopt" me)
- 4
- Try my best to stay (grad school, apply for jobs at NGOs, Universities)
- 6
- Apply for jobs elsewhere (London, Sydney, Singapore)
- 9
- Go home, be a spoiled princess, and finally pursue my dream of helping the poor
- 3
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next time give me a call when you're at battery park (unless you already have your boy with you). No need for being "cobeusau" bc all I can see for you right now is a bright future with endless possibilities.
ReplyDeleteHi Mai,
ReplyDeleteThis is Huy A4-2002. I just skim through ur blog until I see H1B and Finance and start reading ur whole blog. Yeah, it seems very hard to find a finance job in US. Yeah scaring is the common symptom of Intl student (at least me) We work harder than American but don't receive an adequate return .... Wells, Best wishes for you! I hope you can make a right choice that fits most with your interests.
Chi oi option 5: hop on the next flight to Milan and get a model bf over there. Chi ma di em di theo chi luon!
ReplyDeletenot sure about your “death sentence” from the HR, but for the visa thing, I'm so sick of it already. Honestly, I'm looking for jobs in Europe if the H-1B didnt work out. I have done what I came here to do and I'm ready to move on :)
ReplyDeleteI'd go with option 2 or 3. Number 1 sounds crazy if you don't love the person :P
ReplyDeleteNumber 4, hmm, I like the last part about helping the poor.
Gluck chi Mai! I'm sure whatever decision you pick will help you grow in a different way. ^_^
tai sao chi mai lai fai qua' extreme va radical den muc fai stick o NY? em tuong chi mai thi'ch adventure, thich travelling, thich nhung dieu moi la co ma? Tai sao My~ lai la nhat co chu'? bay gio recession e` co thi` fai kha'm pha nhung noi khac chu'. Luc ay chi mai se duoc kham pha 1 chan troi moi, 1 culture moi, va chon vui nhung qua' khu' cua ngay xua di... Da den luc tao cho minh 1 chapter moi roi day ;)
ReplyDeleteYou know, some times, in your life, you need to hustle. That's right, hustling to get what you want (because nobody will get it for you)
ReplyDeletegoogle "define: hustle"
"sell something to or obtain something from by energetic and especially underhanded activity"
If I were you, I would weigh out the pros and cons of the different options. No point asking people about what you should do -- you know the answer best. Only you know the pros and cons and the impacts of your decision. Talk to a few trusted people to get a feel of their understandings. You have then have to decide it.
You should live your life so that it optimizes your happiness. But that also means that you sacrifice something now to get back a much bigger return down the road (or not, there's always a risk).
The means or The end.
For me, I chose hustling to the end, and I can't stop hustling for success now. I need it as bad as my mind needs some rest. In the end I would be a lot happier looking back and tell myself: yes, you work hard and hustle your way to get here, instead of "oh, only if..."
finally, if you are that evil then so is everybody around you (a.k.a we are almost the same in this world, genetically speaking and statistically speaking)
>:)
Mai oi, mot canh cua khep lai, se lai co mot canh cua khac mo ra, chua chac con duong dang di da la con duong tot nhat. The nen, Mai cu open for options di nhe'. NYC is always there, you will come back to NYC sooner or later.
ReplyDeleteDon't know how to advise, but you've been this far and I'm sure a little knock along the way won't affect you much in the long run.
ReplyDeleteIf you like NY that much, you should probably apply for grad school. Isnt that what you originally planned to do after Nera?