Love and hope

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”

Through years of observing, listening, reading and watching, I have come to realize that:

There are two types of heartbreak. The first type of heartbreak is the bitterness and feeling of betrayal when someone disappoints, treats you badly or left you. This feeling is painful and terrible but will soon go away after you get over the fact that they are not so great or when you find someone new. The second type of heartbreak is the feeling of missing someone because you truly deeply love them no matter what they did to you or how many times they broke you heart. It is that feeling of loneliness and longing to run to the person every time you want to share your uttermost moments of joy or sadness. This type of heartbreak is hard to overcome, because no matter how many new people who meet, you keep wishing to trade everything for one person, and no matter how others tell you “he/she’s not worth it”, you still have faith in the person you gave your heart to and love them and care for them.

There are two ways for girls to win guys heart. The first is the obvious method of “playing hard to get” and following “the rules”. Guys like challenge, and the less you care, the more they care. However, if you can’t be that kind of girl, the only other way is to be the nice girl who always cares and is always there, and hope for the small possibility that you could be “the exception to the rule”. Guess which type of girl I am?

We mostly hear stories of bad guys breaking girls’ hearts. But actually women can be a cruel breed too. I have so many guy friends who have had their heartbroken by girls. A few even had their wives leave them for someone else. I listened to their stories, I saw them cry, I witnessed them living in despair, and I saw how their eyes brighten up when they recalled the beautiful memories they had and how wonderful they still described the woman they love.

I couldn’t help laughing at myself when I recall an incident a couple of years ago. I had recently changed my phone number, and in a moment of madness, I texted a guy friend a message “All men are liars. I will never love anyone again.” Funny thing is, my friend called me immediately and asked “Is that you? Although it came from an unknown number but the tone sounds familiar so I guessed it was you.” Ha ha ha… Well, it’s true for both men and women. No matter how cruel life can be, how the other sex disappoints you, you only have 2 options: to live your life by yourself forever, or accept them for whom they are. I choose to keep on trying and hoping.

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